Download the coping with gender dysphoria information sheet as a PDF
Gender dysphoria is the experience of distress or discomfort with your body’s sex characteristics sex hookup apps 2021 for couples or the gender role assigned to you. It’s something that is experienced differently by everyone and can change over time. There’s no one way to deal with dysphoria and different things work for different people.
Here are some ideas that could help trans and gender diverse young people cope with dysphoria. Some are specific to gender dysphoria and some are more general coping strategies that may help. Try some out and make a list of ones that work for you. Remember, what works at one time e at another time, so trying out different strategies at different times can be useful too.
Ideas for coping with gender dysphoria
1. Express your feelings – share your feelings in a notebook or blog, or express how you feel through an art, craft or music project.
2. Talk to someone who understands – talk to a supportive friend, find an online trans community you feel connection with, or speak to QLife (qlife.org.au to webchat or 1800 184 527). If you have a counsellor or therapist you feel safe talking with about your gender dysphoria, make time to bring this up with them.
3. Listen to someone who has similar feelings to you – talk to friends who also experience dysphoria, or watch a Vlogger who you relate to.
4. Find/use items that aid in expressing your gender and makes you feel more confident in yourself – binders, packers, STPs (stand-to-pee devices), breast forms, panty girdles, padded underwear, makeup, clothes, shoes, accessories, hair removal items, hair styling products.
5. Affirm your identity – do small or big things that affirm your identity; whether it’s wearing a small accessory that is affirmative for you, re-styling your hair, or emailing your teachers to tell them your preferred name and pronouns.
7. Find ways to do everyday things that reduce your dysphoria – steam up or cover the bathroom mirrors, use a big sponge or loofah for bathing, cuddle a pillow to cover your chest when you sleep, or master makeup contouring.
9. Take a moment to point out a few positive things you love about your body more generally – things you are great at, or things you like about yourself.
10. Remember to be easy on yourself and on your personal image. Remind yourself of the diversity of all people’s bodies and gender presentations to give yourself a reality check.
11. Take time to explore what feels right for you when it comes to your identity and expressing yourself and your gender. Forget beauty standards and gender stereotypes: what expressions and identities feel right for YOU.
12. Exercise – a healthy amount of exercise can improve your mood. Do what you like – dance your heart out in your bedroom, do some yoga, ride a bike, go to circus classes, use the local park gym equipment, or look up exercises that will shape your body in ways that could reduce your dysphoria.
13. Remember that your trials and struggles in life can make you stronger. You’ve made it to this point. You should be proud of yourself.
14. Stimulate your senses – smell something (perfume, a flower), taste something (something strong-flavoured or something you really like), listen to something (nature sounds or music), touch something (fabric, a furry pet, a teddy bear), stimulate your vision (by looking at a colour you like or pics of baby animals).
17. Pamper yourself – dress in your favourite gender-affirming clothes, or wear comfy clothes to help you relax/feel better, wear your favorite makeup, eat your favourite comfort food, get a haircut, moisturize your body.
18. Connect with nature – go for a walk outside, do some gardening, watch the birds, trees or stars, care for an animal, wade in a river or ocean, bask in the sunshine.
19. Take time out or stay busy – whichever works best for you at the time. Slow down and relax, or stay occupied and distracted.
20. Go to bed early! Make sure you prepare to sleep by turning off devices, doing something relaxing, making the room quiet, clean and peaceful, and rest well.
21. Eat the rainbow! Getting a balanced, nutritious diet with lots of fruit and vegetables will help your mind and body feel its best.
22. Make time for pleasure – make sure you are doing things that make you feel good everyday. Schedule it in if you have to!
Try putting together a portable ‘coping care pack’ with your list of things that you can do to deal with dysphoria and any small supplies you need for the strategies that work for you, e.g., a distracting or sensory toy, an essential oil, lip balm, affirmation cards, a picture of your pet. That way you can have it available anytime.
If you are feeling really down or thinking about suicide it’s important to get as much support as possible, including professional support. Call Lifeline on 13 11 14 or go to our Get Help Now page for more options.